Subs should show their appreciation… for their dominants!

Confessions of a Kinky Housewife


Recently I was thanked after a play session with a relatively new play partner. As we sat in after care, he stated how difficult it was to express genuine, authentic feelings of gratitude and how odd that was given the context of what we had been doing.

On the ride home I realized that this was the first time anyone had thanked me for playing with them. Ever. I’ve been on the left side of the slash for several years now and no one had ever thanked me. The more I thought about it the more angry I became especially when I thought about the fact that I always make it a point to thank my bottoms. The fact that this had never been reciprocated didn’t occur to me until I felt the wave of gratitude created by being appreciated.

The funny thing about this is that I do it…

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I don’t like to wear women’s clothes…but

I’m a guy. I’m more comfortable in boxer-briefs. I don’t have a fetish for women’s clothing.


But my partner says I look sexy in them. So I go along with her.


She says I look like a slut…her slut!

My only complaint is that the panties are too tight!

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Who’s a Good Boy? Tips and Tricks on Being the Best Submissive You Can Be

it’s ok to act bratty sometimes…as it gives your dominant an opportunity to exert control


Making the decision to enter a D/s relationship, whether full or part time, is not one that should ever be made lightly. You may not have any doubts that you have a submissive personality, but that does not always immediately translate to automatically being a good or natural submissive. Being part of a Dom/sub relationship and belonging to someone as their submissive requires a certain level of self-discipline, along with a certain mindset. Here’s a look at some tips and tricks for being the kind of sub that any Master would be happy to call his or her own.

Choose Your Dom/Domme Carefully

This will be the most important decision you will make as a sub. Keep in mind that the decision is ultimately yours and that the power is entirely in your hands here. Nobody can force you into submission, and if someone is attempting to push you into…

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Manners … or Lack Thereof

How a gawker almost ruined a heavy bdsm scene!

Confessions of a Kinky Housewife


A couple of weeks ago I was at my local dungeon. It was during one of our more popular events. It was quite busy but not horribly crowded as it can be on such an occasion. The club’s normal vetting process was not in place for the event. It was the coordinator’s responsibility to be sure everyone behaved appropriately. This meant the attendees did not have to take the normally required class regarding dungeon etiquette.

I was Topping one of my heavier bottoms (pain tolerance not weight, for the ‘nillas who might be reading along) in a rather cramped area. Dividing our scene space from the one next door to us was the chain web. When we began there was a scene taking place on the opposite side of the web. The bottom was screaming as if her throat was being slit from ear to ear. I was mildly annoyed…

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An Intro to F/m – Part 4

How controlling & compliance styles of D/s differ…which one is best for you?

Femdom Ramblings from a submissive male

Continuation of this series… this post most closely relates to Part 2.

In M/f you will find a lot of subs that struggle with being “starved.”  That is, there aren’t enough D/s dynamics in place to consistently push them into submissive mental space and they will begin to ache for dominance.  This is most common for existing relationships that have introduced D/s at a later date where the dominant doesn’t embrace exerting control.  The consensus for dealing with this matter is to continue to keep communication lines open between dominant and sub and eventually a happy medium will be established that keeps a sub from reaching the point where they act out due to starvation.

In F/m you will find a mix of relationships that were D/s out of the gate and ones who have attempted to add D/s into an existing relationship.  In both types of relationships you…

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An Intro to F/m – Part 3

Some of the things a lifestyle couple do may seem shocking… until you learn how they got there and how happy they are!

Femdom Ramblings from a submissive male

Blah blah, follow up to Part 1 and Part 2, stuff, disclaimers, reasons.

This is the last of these I intend to write unless people have ideas for additional topics.  The intent isn’t to bring up every possible F/m scenario, but more to illustrate some of the common concepts of the lifestyle.

This last section banks heavily upon a concept that I have written about in the past and called, Progressive Escalation.  Progressive escalation is the idea that as time passes, that the intensity of D/s dynamics will increase.  Dominants will become more dominant.  Submissives will become more submissive.  What once felt like a rush becomes boring and so you push the envelope into new territory to bring back the same level of excitement.  Most of the time when you encounter a couple that practices dynamics that have you thinking, “OMG HOW COULD THEY DO THIS??? IT’S SO MEAN!”…

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No Wasted Ink Writers Links

How to write your story by design…one of several interesting blog posts for writers

No Wasted Ink

no-wasted-ink-writers-links-logoHappy Monday!  I hope you are all enjoying Nanowrimo if you are a writer.  November is a special month for me.  I enjoy the change of season and the preparation for an American Thanksgiving feast.  This week’s links are more about the community of being a writer, but there are general writing tips in there too.  I hope you like this week’s offering.


The Clothes Behind the Books: How to Dress Like a Writer

a story about piracy

“Unbury the Future”: Martha Wells’ Full Speech from the 2017 World Fantasy Awards


How to Write Horses Wrong: 8 Red Flags

Most Common Writing Mistakes, Pt. 63: Purple Prose

Mary Sue & Why Readers Hate Her

Writing By Design: A New Way To Envision Storytelling

Want To Win NaNoWriMo This Year? 7 Tips On Writing And Productivity

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