My Tumblr site of perversity

Guys, if you’re into femdom, check out Mistress Scarlet’s tumblr site (link below)

Real Life Female Domination

My Tumblr site following is slowly growing. It has reached over 12,000 now. It is always good to know there are dominants who share my eclectic tastes and submissives who are affected by those tastes.

It is 4 years since I set bitch-boy the task of reposting images to worsen his frustration.

LINK to my published journals detailing my day-to-day perverted life

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He said yes!

what #spanking implements do you like…some thoughts & a resource

Domestic Discipline & Our Happy Marriage

As my husband and I are pretty new to domestic discipline, we are still experimenting with different implements for him to discipline me with.  He has implements that he likes because he feels they are most effective.  I have implements that I prefer, which tend to be more stingy and less “thud”.  Basically, the instruments he likes tend to leave bruises and make it hard for a misbehaving wife to sit down the next day and the instruments I prefer are stingy and leave welts on my bottom.  I don’t typically get to choose what I am spanked with…it is always Daddy’s preference.  At this stage, Daddy has spanked me with his belt, a wooden hairbrush, a stiff round leather paddle with holes in it, a rectangular wooden paddle with holes in it, a carpet beater, a cane, a switch, and the strap.  But, my naughty little self couldn’t help…

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30 Days of submission: Day 30

For some, #submission is who they are…and how they express their love!

Femdom Ramblings from a submissive male

Is your need to submit being met? 

No.  It used to be, but not currently.

If not, or if your situation changed, do you think that you could continue in your life and still be happy/content if you were never able to express your submission in the way that feels best to you again? 

I try to make the best of things as they are but the truthful answer is no.  Life would feel unfulfilling without submission.

What makes submission special to you?

Submission is special to me because it resides so dearly in my heart and it is my truest form of expressing my love.  I want my actions to speak louder than words and my intentions to resonate in everything that I do.  This is who I am at the core of my being.

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Should Porn Studios Shut Down over a HIV scare?




in this article a porn industry trade group called for the shutdown of all porn productions because one of the actors of a member film producer tested HIV+.

In a few days, the trade group lifted the shutdown


We can now confirm the positive test by an adult film performer on Saturday was from an exposure in their personal life during a hiatus in filming, and did not in any way compromise or affect the performer pool

Phew! Dodged this bullet!

In California, politicos attempted to place a condom safety net on porn actors in a proposition. The industry fought back:

If the industry were to abide by the regulation, condoms would have to be worn not only during anal and vaginal sex, but oral sex as well…facial cumshots, aka the “money shot” for many porn scenes, would either be eradicated or would require the recipient to wear goggles and a surgeon’s mask

but this recently failed .

This crisis didn’t stop some from suggesting other alternatives:


Christina Parreira is in the process of publishing a study of Nevada brothels. Nevada licensed brothels have regular health inspections of their sex workers. Many #SWs will use douches after each client.  However, it is believed that

douching is harmful and should be discouraged because of its association with pelvic inflammatory disease, ectopic pregnancy, and perhaps other conditions

The FSC’s Pass System does something similar to the Nevada system. The system is used widely by major porn producers.

Others have suggested all porn actors be required to use PrEP:



PrEP is a costly and a not-completely-effective preventative of HIV, let alone other STI/STD’s.

The Pass System or any other trade group effort is only as effective as it’s participation. A growing number of films are produced by indies who do not belong to FSC or use the Pass System.

what should you do?

If you only watch porn…nothing! (except vote against propositions similar to Cal.’s prop. 60 b/c of the suppression of free speech and support organizations like FSC).

If you’re in a porn film…either work with an industry that uses the Pass System for its actors (and yourself) or check for recent HIV test results of everyone in the film…or use condoms.

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Dominant and submissive: Noun vs. Adjective

some handy definitions of a “Dominant” & a “submissive”

Femdom Ramblings from a submissive male

I’ve been having quite a few D/s discussions lately which has been nice, but I have to say that many people have very different definitions of Dominant and submissive and what those words entail.

I really don’t wish to hash out every point of view here, but I would like to make a handful of statements that display my beliefs.  Feel free to disagree with me via comments 🙂

Dominant behavior or a dominant personality is not the same as being a Dominant.  That is, the existence of the adjective does not make the noun.  There are plenty of submissives that carry a dominant personality in vanilla life or act with many dominant behaviors.  There are plenty of vanilla people that have dominant personalities and behaviors that do not associate with being a Dominant.

Submissive behavior or a submissive personality is not the same as being a submissive.  In my…

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30 Days of Dominance – Day 7

#discipline can redirect a sub’s thinking…to return to the D/s relationship

Smiling Through the Evil

Day 7 – Do you inflict discipline or punishment as part of your Dominance? Why or why not? How do you feel about discipline and punishment as tools used to invoke and maintain submission from your partner/s?

Oh, I have loads of thoughts and opinions on punishment, as do manyall of us. 🙂

Before I begin I want to make it known that I realize punishment is not for everyone and if it is done it’s a very individual thing. I’m not so bold to say my way is the best way for all (or anyone), nevertheless I am bold enough to speak my opinion.

I have always been in favor of punishment and it is hard for me to picture a D/s dynamic without it. There are just so many benefits!

I want a clear line between D and s, none of that 51/49 ridiculousness, and I feel…

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Social Media engaged in #sexualStigma?



Are social media stigmatizing those who advocate or practice certain sexual activities?


In Feb. Fetlife had deleted groups, photos and posts:

[Fetlife] was tightening community guidelines to ban depictions or discussion of edgier kinks, including blood, non-consent, alcohol, cutting, and the vaguely defined “obscenity.” [it] deleted thousands of photographs, groups and fetish categories without warning.

Fetlife joins other social media such as Youtube, Blogger/Blogspot, Google+, Tumblr, Facebook that I and others have documented in previous posts. They claim that credit card companies will delete their merchant accounts if they don’t censor.

This action is endemic of a kind of Sexual prejudice, a sexual stigma to what is deviant to the heteronormative culture.

Dr. Herrick describes this

as being descriptive, free of presumptions about motivations, and lacking value judgments as to the irrationality or immorality of those so labeled.

Those in the #bdsm community are particularly removed from any resistance to the stigma because the APA still wants to define the activity as a type of mental illness (paraphilia) :

Due to societal shift on what is defined as sexually deviant the use of ‘paraphilic’ has significantly changed over time, and within cultures, and thus strict definitions of a paraphilia are problematic…

[instead, they propose to define paraphilia as]

any powerful and persistent sexual interest other than sexual interest in copulatory or pre-copulatory behaviour with phenotypically normal, consenting adult human partners”

In laymen’s language, the shrinks prefer to think of #bdsm practices as a treatable illness. As long as they do, the social media and their conservative financial backers will continue to censor anything they consider objectionable.

I wish I could think of a “call for action” in these politically conservative times. At best, we can hope to educate the public that:

  • sex work between consenting adults is a legitimate line of work and should not be criminalized.
  • bdsm practices between consenting adults is not an illness and should not be criminalized.

After Same-Sex Marriage was finally upheld by SCOTUS, we now have to continue the fight for sexual freedom.


How can you help? Check out EFF’s review of censorship in 2016.  And report abuse (and $upport)


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