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Should guys come out as submissives?

Posted on May 4, 2023 by dave94015

You might as well live out your fantasies and not be ashamed of it…So many problems would fall away if submissiveness was treated as a sexuality Continue reading →

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The story of the Determined Dominatrix

Posted on February 25, 2023 by dave94015

Originally posted on J R Vincente:
Hello readers! I am back! What does back mean? Back means that I am committing (again) to keep this blog going, and doing more than Insecure Writer’s Support Group and TMI Tuesday. Don’t worry,…

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Are guys motivated by their libido? – the erotica premise

Posted on August 1, 2022 by dave94015

erotic catharsis happens, his mind is cleared of doubts. If he repeats this experience many times with her, will he commit and continue to live with her? Continue reading →

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Monogamy: A lost foundation for intimacy

Posted on July 18, 2022 by dave94015

Originally posted on The Journey of A Man in Search of Self and Belonging (but open to any other shit he might find along the way)!:
“Don’t knock it until you have tried it.” This phrase can be a double-edged sword. Here…

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D/s burnout, Part II: What do we do about it?

Posted on June 22, 2022 by dave94015

Originally posted on Slut, Ph.D.:
Looking inwards, looking back: What people said they wished they’d done and known When I asked people what they wished they had done and known in retrospect, their answers were heartbreaking (and again, painfully…

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D/s burnout, postscript: An aside about gender

Posted on June 22, 2022 by dave94015

Originally posted on Slut, Ph.D.:
You will note as you read the previous two posts that I have recorded people’s gender and d/s roles in their comments. That’s because years of sociological study of the scene have taught me…

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Going Bi in Polyamory

Posted on April 12, 2022 by dave94015

polyamory presents the opportunities for both men and women to explore bisexual activities. Continue reading →

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Going Solo when your partner isn’t on board with it – an example

Posted on March 22, 2022 by dave94015

Once many get a taste of poly, there’s no going back to mono Continue reading →

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Is Solo Polyamory just a variation of Friends with Benefits?

Posted on March 14, 2022 by dave94015

someone in a relationship will have a friend with benefits…because the person is quite emotionally satisfied in the main relationship but finds sexual satisfaction with the other person Continue reading →

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Is the BDSM community stodgy? How to loosen up

Posted on March 7, 2020 by dave94015

Women who bottom…might switch to a top role depending on the partner Continue reading →

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