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About dave94015

interested in alternative relationships, visual artist, erotic romance writer and reviewer of erotica, drug rehab clinic intern - early 30's

Size does matter for guys

while a guy’s size does matter especially to other guys, ladies are looking for the total package Continue reading

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A couple’s seaside vacation

she becomes aroused by hearing his reaction to her administration of pain. “The more pleasure you provide, the more pain your partner will be able to take. You can use this to your advantage to increase your partner’s…tolerance to pain and even to condition yourself to enjoy it.” #bdsm #femdom Continue reading

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Are guys motivated by their libido? – the erotica premise

erotic catharsis happens, his mind is cleared of doubts. If he repeats this experience many times with her, will he commit and continue to live with her? Continue reading

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Why guys should wear underwear

No matter how hot you are, you could offend your partner if you come to the party with no drawers. Continue reading

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Monogamy: A lost foundation for intimacy

Originally posted on The Journey of A Man in Search of Self and Belonging (but open to any other shit he might find along the way)!:
“Don’t knock it until you have tried it.” This phrase can be a double-edged sword. Here…

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D/s burnout, Part II: What do we do about it?

Originally posted on Slut, Ph.D.:
Looking inwards, looking back: What people said they wished they’d done and known When I asked people what they wished they had done and known in retrospect, their answers were heartbreaking (and again, painfully…

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D/s burnout, postscript: An aside about gender

Originally posted on Slut, Ph.D.:
You will note as you read the previous two posts that I have recorded people’s gender and d/s roles in their comments. That’s because years of sociological study of the scene have taught me…

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Safer Oral Sex for women

With the rapid spread of HPV and other STI’s through oral sex, there’s some protection available. Underwear by Lorals has been cleared by the FDA. look for “Lorals for Protection”. a 4-pack is about $25 sold on their website or … Continue reading

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Some Days I See Monogamy Through Rose Colored Glasses

Originally posted on My Journey to Now:
Or is it simply the proverbial “the grass is always greener on the other side” syndrome? Photo by?GianCarlo Greco?on?Unsplash Now that I’ve been in the non monogamous world for a while, I am…

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How Do I Manage My Partner’s Jealousy?

Originally posted on Poly With a Big Heart:
If your partner struggles with jealousy, you’ve probably asked yourself: “How can I keep my partner from feeling this way?” or “How do I help my partner manage this?” It’s perfectly natural…

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