Position, Role, and Fetishism

domme with a leash & collar

a submissive presents a leash attached to her collar to a dominant. Is she a Dominant fetishist?

Many people obtain a glimpse into the world of BDSM by attending munches, events and parties. They often come out of these experiences feeling left out of the effect they were looking for. Often they blame practitioners for letting them down.

Part of the reason for this let down is that novices usually do not know what they want. Experienced people expect them to communicate specific requests before they initiate activities.

Understanding the meaning and differences between Position, Role, and Fetishes can help a person determine what they really want in a BDSM relationship before they waste the time of other practitioners . Here is an example of how subtle these differences can be:

a man who identifies as a “submissive” and wants a “Dominant” woman that dresses, acts, feels, and speaks in the way that he desires. In actuality, this man is fetishizing a woman who he would like to control into being what he wants her to be. So, this man who thinks he’s a “sub” is actually a Dominant fetishist. If he wants her to do things to him, such as “tease and denial”, he’s also a bottom. If he wants to do things to her, such as body worship, he’s also a top. This relates to what we call “topping from the bottom“, a misnomer that really refers to “Dominating from the submissive role”.

“Many men seem to find the idea of being controlled by a woman to be sexually arousing, but the actuality of it is not what they are really looking for. ” – influenced by media (e.g. porn) – clarification of femdom, fetish, etc. http://bit.ly/2NWAwC6

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About dave94015

interested in alternative relationships, visual artist, erotic romance writer and reviewer of erotica, drug rehab clinic intern - early 30's
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