FemDom for the NextGen – a look at a ‘vulnerable’ ProDomme

LolaRuin describes how being open and vulnerable creates a different ProDomme experience

Many people are opposed to prodommes for various reasons. Much of the opposition comes from women who contend that Prodommes are merely catering to male fantasies. Yet those who have worked with dominatrices see them as sex workers who fulfill a need and provide useful services.

Some prodommes see themselves as feminists who believe in sex-positive practice and the freedom of women to choose the careers they want.

In this post, I present the feminist views of Lola Ruin, a dominatrix.

In her recent blog post
MistressLolaRuin writes:

[at first] men who came to see Me wanted a strong, powerful Woman. They wanted to place you on a pedestal, and use you like a blank screen they could project their fantasies onto. In order to be a successful Domme, you should curate every little glimpse they see to reflect that ideal. Under no circumstances, should you show any weakness or vulnerability. ..I
questioned this ‘Dominant Ideal’ 

As a feminist, I also felt conflicted about being a sex worker… I was actively contributing to a highly sexualized view of women

I (willingly) let the façade slip. I began to write more personal blog posts, and spoke more openly about things I feel are important in BDSM.

The more vulnerability I showed, the more that seemed to resonate with people. Prospective slaves began to seek Me out as a result of the thoughts and writings I had begun to share. As I began to become more authentic and vulnerable in My work, that seemed to really strike a chord with My submissives.

I talked openly about the importance of consent, relationship styles, and mental health. As I did, I suddenly found My submissives were becoming not only more compatible with Me, but that they were opening up to Me more and more. They confined not only their innermost fantasies but their own struggles. Many of them told Me they had never confined that in anyone else before. ..
sometimes just being able to speak aloud about your problems can be healing

My work became far more meaningful and real, for both Myself and My submissives…

Although I adore to dish up pain, in many ways I am not your traditional Pro-Domme. Rather than shouting and screaming, I prefer to softly whisper promises of reward and punishment to you in My sultry feminine voice…

Mistress Ruin enjoys tormenting submissive guys

About dave94015

interested in alternative relationships, visual artist, erotic romance writer and reviewer of erotica, drug rehab clinic intern - early 30's
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