A submissive is sometimes accused of Topping from the bottom
topping from the bottom in BDSM is defined in Fifty Shades Freed
‘Topping from the bottom‘ is an expression used to describe a situation where a submissive attempts to control the play, the dynamic or the relationship from their submissive position using seduction, persuasion, provocation, puppy-dog-eyes, etc.
KAYLA LORDS posts: 6 Things That Aren’t Topping from the Bottom
- Having a Safeword
- Using a Safeword
- Setting Limits
- Expressing Your Needs
- Renegotiating Your Dynamic
- Discussing Rules, Protocols, and Punishments
But many submissives are afraid to be accused of this.
How topping from the bottom in a BDSM scene isn’t always a bad thing…and how it isn’t always necessary to have a power exchange…excellent explanation
Check out Topping From the Bottom
Topping from the bottom is a necessary element of communication in BDSM relationships.
In the usual dynamic you have a top (dom) and a bottom (sub). Topping from the bottom simply means being in control while you’re the submissive.
Or in other words: Being the top while fulfilling the bottom role: topping from the bottom.
Topping from the bottom’ is an expression used to describe a situation where a submissive attempts to control the play, the dynamic or the relationship from their submissive position using seduction
I’ve done this in play with my dom. It doesn’t happen often but sometimes he does like it.
Do you mean that you communicate with your dom about play you have?
During play I’ll top from the bottom yes