A submissive is sometimes accused of Topping from the bottom
topping from the bottom in BDSM is defined in Fifty Shades Freed
‘Topping from the bottom‘ is an expression used to describe a situation where a submissive attempts to control the play, the dynamic or the relationship from their submissive position using seduction, persuasion, provocation, puppy-dog-eyes, etc.
- Having a Safeword
- Using a Safeword
- Setting Limits
- Expressing Your Needs
- Renegotiating Your Dynamic
- Discussing Rules, Protocols, and Punishments
But many submissives are afraid to be accused of this.
How topping from the bottom in a BDSM scene isn’t always a bad thing…and how it isn’t always necessary to have a power exchange…excellent explanation
Check out Topping From the Bottom
Topping from the bottom is a necessary element of communication in BDSM relationships.
In the usual dynamic you have a top (dom) and a bottom (sub). Topping from the bottom simply means being in control while you’re the submissive.
Or in other words: Being the top while fulfilling the bottom role: topping from the bottom.
Topping from the bottom’ is an expression used to describe a situation where a submissive attempts to control the play, the dynamic or the relationship from their submissive position using seduction
I can’t believe I haven’t written a blog post on topping from the bottom! How could I be so remiss of addressing a topic which comes up often in sub group discussions? Ah well… here is my take on the issue.
Topping from the bottom is when a submissive tries to control the scene in various ways. This can be giving explicit directions during a scene, setting exacting constraints prior to a scene, refusing to do activities which are not on a hard or soft limit list, or other similar behaviors. Generally topping from the bottom is seen as problematic behavior on the part of the submissive.
Is Topping from the Bottom Always Wrong?
I have come across a bunch of blog posts which write from the perspective that topping from the bottom is always wrong and always problematic. In reality, there is nothing inherently wrong with topping from the…
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