Some guys are addicted to sex.
I see it often in my other job at the bar. On weekends or late evenings, the “back room” becomes very busy with the same people who usually snag and shag one or more partners.
Let me first clear the air about addiction. It’s defined as “engaging in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasing negative consequences to self and others”.
The DSM-IV also defines sex-addiction as:
compulsive searching for multiple partners, compulsive fixation on an unattainable partner, compulsive masturbation, compulsive love relationships and compulsive sexuality in a relationship
Many in the medical profession assert there is no such thing as “sex addiction” (1) .
Practitioners who treat sex-addiction claim:
the pursuit of sex becomes more important than family, career, and even personal health and safety
People often use the term “sex addiction” as an excuse for their “fast & loose” dating and mating style. While many of these guys are just lecherous pleasure-mongers, they are not usually compelled to have sex all the time.
So what do these “frequent flyers” have in common? A study of addicts claims:
some people are more prone to addiction because they obtain less pleasure through natural routes
By natural routes, we mean socializing.
Guys who are addicted to sex often resort to it to start or maintain a connection with another person. They will say something like: “after we’re done talking, let’s do it in the back room”.
Sex addicts are not necessarily inadequate in socializing, they just feel conversation only goes so far. They believe people get down to real communication with their clothes off and rubbing “skin on skin”.
Future postings: How is #SW like “sex-addiction”?
Are #SW who perform in porn are “sex-addicts”?
- The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders-V (DSM-5) does not list sex addiction as a diagnosable condition yet, but research indicates that there is a clear prevalence of adverse sexual behavior that is similar in development to a “chemical” addiction http://bit.ly/2sZN6Wx