Guys getting into #bdsm…start with the “B”

Many people overlook one of the core elements of #bdsm – the first letter. It’s like asking someone what is the most common element in a sandwich. Is it butter, mayo, peanut butter? No! It’s the “bread”. Similarly

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“bondage” is the most common element to #bdsm in my opinion.

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KaleyCuoco

Kaley Cuoco learns about the physics of impact play in the “Big Bang”.

Here are some tips for guys getting into the “B”.

  • Guys have a natural resistance to being bound because they feel inadequate without the exercise of their physical prowess.
  • Bondage is necessary to level the playing field when the administrator of impact play is sometimes less powerful than you are when threatened.
  • Most guys are easily angered by pain and are likely to make a “fight or flight” response.
  • Many guys cannot deal with a temporary loss of freedom, or of controlling a situation.
  • Newbies might be really scared to be bound by a stranger. They’ve heard of scenarios like: “she tied me up and took my wallet…” or he “tied me up and beat me mercilessly”, etc.

On that last point, I suggest newbies take a guarded approach to bondage.

  • Try it out in a public dungeon with a group that has a dungeon master with a good reputation.
  • Try it out with someone you really trust or ask to bring a friend to the scene.
  • Try it out with one hand untied so you can make an easy escape.

Bondage is not entirely risk-free. Become aware of the risks before you start.

It’s important to get in the right frame of mind before entering a bondage scene.

There are many guides to bondage safety that you should read so that you will know what safety you should expect in a scene.

While some practice #bdsm with little or no “B”, bondage can be exciting by itself. Check out the variety of implements that are in kink.com’s prop room.

simple pillowcase #bondage.

(sorry, the $16 bondage-toys in the first pic. is no longer available)

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About dave94015

interested in alternative relationships, visual artist, erotic romance writer and reviewer of erotica, drug rehab clinic intern - mid 20's
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2 Responses to Guys getting into #bdsm…start with the “B”

  1. naughtynora00 says:

    Great post!

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