how a couple into D/s can progress to more extreme activities over time to keep their relationship fresh…and an important boundary to observe
I realized after making my last post that it felt a bit incomplete. I have some more thoughts on the subject that could use some expansion.
I believe the most important factor in the growth of mental sadism is time. Trust comes in at a close second. The changes that occur in both Domme and sub must be nurtured. Standard interactions require time to become ordinary. The freedom for a Domme to experiment and process what is going on within her takes time, confidence, and communication. The sub must trust her enough to subject himself to her whims. She must trust that he can endure what she throws at him.
As things progress, symbolism often takes on a larger role and what an act represents often outweighs the act itself. e.g. to kneel and bow takes relatively little effort. The mental reinforcement of difference in status between Domme and sub…
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