you do not have to hold your partner to the same expectations as they do of you!
By: Your Friendly Neighborhood Kinkster
Many people believe that what is good for one person in the relationship should be good for both people. What one person expects from behavior should be what both expect and this idea goes especially for most relationships both in and out of BDSM.
But in my experience it shouldn’t be good for both to expect the same things in a relationship. There are two very different people who come together as a unit and as that unit, the expectations to the world should be the same between the participants. But within that partnership exists different upbringings and different educations and completely different personalities. It is these differences which should not be beaten into submission in order to have a single way of doing things, but celebrated and understood by both people in the relationship.
For example, Mistress Valiant and I expect different things within…
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