why telling your partner that you’re submissive and want to play might not be a good thing at first
How often does it happen in long-term relationships that one person starts to want something more, something different?
If that something tends towards the kinkier side, maybe that person doesn’t dare speak up for fear of the reaction:
“You want me to do what to you?
You filthy pervert!
Pack your bags, go live with your mother, you’re never seeing the kids again.”
Not wanting to break the superficially perfect relationship, the options may appear restricted to forgetting all about it or seeking solace elsewhere, with someone who isn’t going to judge and doesn’t share your daily woes.
The bolder, more fulfilling option is to find a way to talk about it with the fearsome significant other, the one who holds your self-image and dignity in the palm of his/her hand.
Lately I’ve been dreaming, you in leather, me in lace
My advice at this stage is that rushing headlong…
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