This post is about how there is no right or wrong way to do kink with your partner…and how your roles may change over time!
Its the most common question I see of new kinksters, “Am I doing this right?” It comes in several versions, “I think I am a Domme, but I am not sure I have the stuff to top,” or “I am a woman, I am supposed to be submissive, right?” or “Maybe I just haven’t found the right partner, but what I am doing doesn’t seem to quite fit me.”
First, there is no one way to do kink right. Kink is a journey. It requires time, experimentation, growth, and mistakes. It requires reading, and searching, and chatting with people, and crying and laughing. And even after 30 years I am still a growing and changing kinkster.
A couple of things to keep in mind:
Culture will influence your kink! We all grow up in at least one culture. Perceptions of men and women, masculinity and femininity, sexuality, strength and weakness…
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