Writing BDSM (For People Who Aren’t in the Community)

some #bdsm basics for those new to the scene…or writing about it!

The Ardent Aro

If you aren’t into BDSM, chances are your best understanding of it comes from 50 Shades of Grey. The only thing 50 Shades exemplifies is how NOT to write BDSM. So strap in (pun intended) because I’m going to lay out how to write BDSM correctly.

1. Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC)

This is the first tenet of BDSM. Any responsible Dominant or submissive will follow SSC, and you’d do well to write this into your work, especially if experienced players are involved. I’ll break this down further for you.

  • Safe – This first principle is about ensuring that all players involved play with safety in mind. That is to say, STDs, mental health, physical health, activities, and safewords have been addressed, with the appropriate accommodations made. “Safe” ensures that, regardless of the intensity of the scene, all players walk away only with the harm they desired.
  • Sane – This…

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About dave94015

interested in alternative relationships, visual artist, erotic romance writer and reviewer of erotica, drug rehab clinic intern - mid 20's
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