a post that debunks the controversy surrounding “no-limits” in #bdsm…when you’re with a partner you trust, limits are implicit in their sanity
You’ve seen it around Fetlife or Collarspace, or maybe you’ve seen it in your inbox from an eager sub.
“I have no limits, I just want to please you.”
And I don’t quite understand the reaction that is so common among Dominants and the more self-absorbed submissives.
They scoff and roll their eyes, and assume that the one making that claim is either inexperienced, stupid, or fake. I’ve even seen people roll their eyes if the list of limits is shorter than their liking.
One of my friends said, “As soon as a sub tells me he has no limits, or only lists the ‘Big 3’ as his limits, the first thing I ask is, ‘Oh, good, so I can cut your balls off?'”
To which the man immediately replies, “Hell no.”
“Oh, okay, so you do have limits.”
Which I can understand, to a point. There are some…
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