Attraction: beyond a binary sex paradigm

a post on how a relationship is much more than sex…and that narrowing it to sex might destroy the possibility


“I’m attracted to you” he says, as he looks deeply into my eyes with that tell-tale expression.

My heart sinks, disappointment fills me.

It’s not what you think. I actually find you quite intriguing. I am energized and happy in your presence. I like you!

But you just did THAT thing. You just limited the possibilities to one outcome. Sex.

I know it’s not your fault. In our dichotomous cultural conditioning, the moment we realize we have an affinity for someone, two souls coming together in resonance, we start to shape it, mould it, force it. And we do so in the only way we know how. We are taught that sex is the ultimate expression of this state of connectedness.

Do not make the mistake of assuming this is sex negative (though I recognize this is also part of our cultural conditioning that might be messing things up even more).

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About dave94015

interested in alternative relationships, visual artist, erotic romance writer and reviewer of erotica, drug rehab clinic intern - mid 20's
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