Meet Mr. & Mrs. B

There are many blogs that give advice on bdsm-themed relationships. Much of it is good, but also conflicting. Old-guard, new-style, pro, lifestyle…the choices seem overwhelming. It’s refreshing to follow how (it appears) a real [hetero, monagamish] couple develop a female-dominant, male-submissive relationship through a series of “straight” (i.e. vanilla)  dates.

In a recent post here   Mr. & Miss B write on their interpretation of the fourth date. They appear to be attracted to each other in the usual way but unaware of their secret desires (she wants to dominate a man, he wants to submit to a woman).

Miss B. sees the possibility of a permanent relationship with Mr. B. The dynamics of her desired relationship (where she dominates) have a priority over her physical attraction to him.

Toward the end of the date, Miss. B reflects:

I had already committed myself to telling him about that I expected a relationship where I was in complete control and eventually, that I loved him. Then I could take him physically…

Mr. and Miss B (now a couple) recall the minefield of relationship pitfalls to attain the bdsm relationship both want.

Usually (for the academic-minded, check a small study by cutler ) there is more conflict (where one wants something the other does not want)  between femdom-malesub couples than with the maledom-femsub couples. Is this due to the “normative” effect of male-dominated culture? Do women feel reluctant to dominate men? Do men feel humiliated to acknowledge their submissiveness to women?


Can a dominant woman love a submissive man?

Mr & Miss B’s dates are an interesting read!

About dave94015

interested in alternative relationships, visual artist, erotic romance writer and reviewer of erotica, drug rehab clinic intern - early 30's
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