Lately the public has taken a fancy for bdsm-themed relationships (partly because of the popularity of the recent novel, 50 shades ). Many think a bdsm relationship is another way for couples to spice up their love-life, a “fun” type of kink. “We try a little kink now and then,” they’ll say.
For the few who want to make bdsm a permanent part of their relationship, to go deeper into the “lifestyle” they should be aware of the double purpose of punishment.
Mistress Lisa describes the different kinds of punishment, “funishment” and corporal. Participants might enjoy the former but might not realize that the same implements can be used for real punishment and can hurt.
When you’re being physically punished for something, it is not the time to try to egg her on with verbal playfulness or…try to turn the punishment into a funishment. …She must see that you have taken the transgression seriously and are sorry for any bad behavior. Then you can both move forward together with a good fresh start
To get a richer experience from bdsm you may have to accept real punishment from your partner.